It's so nice to be away. Cancer can make you feel a little imprisoned. Life becomes completely taken over by appointments, side effects, restrictions, medications, pain, sickness. Everything else eventually, no matter how determined you are that this won't happen, gets put on hold. I call this my 'in-cancer-ation'
This weekend, I'm breaking free. I went to an airport, got on a plane, got off the plane and into a car to my final destination. A place that has nothing but lovely connotations and is far removed from cancer life. I think it might be just the little boost of a break that I need at the moment. A reminder that life as usual can and will resume soon.
The trip (more specifically Lucy) also furnished me with a new arm sock to cover up/hold in place my arch nemesis - my PICC line. I swear it felt like I'd just been shopping and was sporting the latest designer outfit- I was so pleased by how much better it felt. Thank god for nurses and their car boots full of medical goodies. It's the little things that make me happy these days as you can see- my wants and needs really seem to have been stripped down to the bare basics of survival and ability to function! Nothing wrong with that I suppose. A reminder of everything I should have been, and will be again, grateful for.
Now, off to enjoy a yummy meal and a normal Friday night :)
Friday, June 29, 2012
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Naughty naughty
My white blood cell count was good yesterday and my platelets back to normal so I'm going to risk the forbidden trip to England. As if that wasnt 'naughty cancer patient' enough I've decided not to take my final injection as prescribed. My counts are high and the bone pain was beginning and I take this to mean its not needed. I may regret this ballsy-ness. Watch this space.
So, this weekend I get a little mini break. Ok so I'll still pop pills, wrap my arm up in a giant sock, sleep 15 hours a day but I'll be doing it all somewhere other than home which makes it better. It'll be just the boost I need to get me through another month.
On the subject of another month, I'm coming to terms with the treatment reduction. Nonetheless I've got myself an appointment to discuss it in person with the head consultant on Monday so I'm hoping he can convince me 100% that it's safe and not paramount to suicide. If he manages this, I have 3 more chemos, the last of which will be july 31st. Very doable. By August 31st I'll be feeling well, 2 months earlier than planned. Nice.
In other news nick has just bought a drum kit and so, after the weekend I will be seeking alternative lodgings. If anyone would like to house a cranky, messy cancer patient feel free to get in touch...
So, this weekend I get a little mini break. Ok so I'll still pop pills, wrap my arm up in a giant sock, sleep 15 hours a day but I'll be doing it all somewhere other than home which makes it better. It'll be just the boost I need to get me through another month.
On the subject of another month, I'm coming to terms with the treatment reduction. Nonetheless I've got myself an appointment to discuss it in person with the head consultant on Monday so I'm hoping he can convince me 100% that it's safe and not paramount to suicide. If he manages this, I have 3 more chemos, the last of which will be july 31st. Very doable. By August 31st I'll be feeling well, 2 months earlier than planned. Nice.
In other news nick has just bought a drum kit and so, after the weekend I will be seeking alternative lodgings. If anyone would like to house a cranky, messy cancer patient feel free to get in touch...
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Being in my head this week
This good week is being more or less consumed by my frantic searching for more information regarding stopping chemo early. Also, I'm starting to wonder if there's any such thing as a good week anymore. It's definitely a better week, but I still don't feel well. Very tired, very out of breath and feel like sleeping most of the time. I guess it's just the 2-3 months of chemo catching up on me. When I feel like this I definitely lean towards stopping chemo early. Then my 'what if' head kicks in and I'm right back to googling hodgkins trials to see what the outcomes of 4 months chemo have been. It's becoming an obsession. I have to stop.
Today, I'm going to the hospital to have my beloved (GRRRR) Picc line flushed (cleaned) and bandages changed to help reduce the chance of infection. I'm going to see if I can grill them on the 4 vs 6 debate a bit and get their final recommendation. I'm then going to go with that. I've never studied medicine, I should leave the treatment decisions to those who have.
I had a great night out last night, a catch up with girls from work. They commented on how much better I look now than I did before I was diagnosed. Once again, they've confirmed how sick I really was and was just too blind to see. I'm looking forward to how well I feel a few months out of chemo. Soon, soon. I really really miss 'normal'.
I can't imagine however, that you could go through something like this and then simply slot back into life as usual afterwards. Without sounding dramatic, a cancer diagnosis, maybe more so when so young, changes your perspective. In a way, it takes your innocence. The naivety and invincibility of youth. You are forced to face your own mortality. The fact that you will not live forever and moreover may not even live 5 more years. This forces your mind to prioritise. Ok, I'm on a time limit here, however long it may be, the end will come. The mentality of 'Ahhh we'll do that when we retire' suddenly seems very foolish. On the other hand, I wasn't unhappy before, I was happy. So what, if anything, should I be changing?
I know one thing for sure, there are number of things I will never again take for granted once I'm back to 'normal' whatever my new normal may be:
Today, I'm going to the hospital to have my beloved (GRRRR) Picc line flushed (cleaned) and bandages changed to help reduce the chance of infection. I'm going to see if I can grill them on the 4 vs 6 debate a bit and get their final recommendation. I'm then going to go with that. I've never studied medicine, I should leave the treatment decisions to those who have.
I had a great night out last night, a catch up with girls from work. They commented on how much better I look now than I did before I was diagnosed. Once again, they've confirmed how sick I really was and was just too blind to see. I'm looking forward to how well I feel a few months out of chemo. Soon, soon. I really really miss 'normal'.
I can't imagine however, that you could go through something like this and then simply slot back into life as usual afterwards. Without sounding dramatic, a cancer diagnosis, maybe more so when so young, changes your perspective. In a way, it takes your innocence. The naivety and invincibility of youth. You are forced to face your own mortality. The fact that you will not live forever and moreover may not even live 5 more years. This forces your mind to prioritise. Ok, I'm on a time limit here, however long it may be, the end will come. The mentality of 'Ahhh we'll do that when we retire' suddenly seems very foolish. On the other hand, I wasn't unhappy before, I was happy. So what, if anything, should I be changing?
I know one thing for sure, there are number of things I will never again take for granted once I'm back to 'normal' whatever my new normal may be:
- My digestive system
- The ability to roll over in bed without panting afterwards due to exertion
- Nose hair which catches 'drips' before they fall out and hit the table I'm sitting at
- Eyelashes, eyebrows and hair in general
- Having full use of both arms and no tubes hanging off me
- The fact that most days don't involve extended periods of uncontrollable hiccups
- Not having to stick my remaining eyebrow hairs down with vaseline so they don't stick outwards like a crazy aristocratic professor
- Going full days without things getting in my eye
- The ability to function on less than 14 hours sleep
- Having no form of ache or pain for weeks at a time
- Having the ability to plan more than a day in advance, knowing chances are I will be well that day
- Being able to think of something, anything besides cancer, chemo, side effects, prognosis blah blah blah blah
- Having a better paid and more interesting full time job than 'cancer patient'
- Being able to say 'remember that time I had cancer?'
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Good news bad news
Good news: mother nature informs me that I am still not infertile (albeit in a manner that is causing much additional pain and irritability) AND neupogen related bone pain seems to be actually stopping at mild-moderate as the leaflet promised which makes it far less suicide inducing than the neulasta of last month.
Bad news: I've been awake for 5 hours and have still not managed to get myself out of bed and in my 5 hours of internet research it seems only Canada and its standard treatment of my type and stage of lymphoma would advocate reducing chemo by 2 months. All other countries would have me finish my 6 months regardless of remission after 2 months. This is due to the nature of blood cancers over solid tumor cancers - the cancerous cells can be invisible in scans and just hang around ready to pop up again next year. We don't want that.
As you can see I'm not managing my 'forget about it and do what the doctors want' strategy too well. I think it's time to pop a few hundred painkillers, have a shower and attempt my first doggie walk of cycle 5 before the painkillers send me back to sleep. Poor Louie is being very neglected these days. He's not used to coming second to the humans. I think he probably hates cancer even more than we do...
Bad news: I've been awake for 5 hours and have still not managed to get myself out of bed and in my 5 hours of internet research it seems only Canada and its standard treatment of my type and stage of lymphoma would advocate reducing chemo by 2 months. All other countries would have me finish my 6 months regardless of remission after 2 months. This is due to the nature of blood cancers over solid tumor cancers - the cancerous cells can be invisible in scans and just hang around ready to pop up again next year. We don't want that.
As you can see I'm not managing my 'forget about it and do what the doctors want' strategy too well. I think it's time to pop a few hundred painkillers, have a shower and attempt my first doggie walk of cycle 5 before the painkillers send me back to sleep. Poor Louie is being very neglected these days. He's not used to coming second to the humans. I think he probably hates cancer even more than we do...
Saturday, June 23, 2012
neupogen and an arm bandage :)
Amazing the difference a few hours can make - grumpy stressed post this morning to be ignored. I think what was really bothering me was the PICC line and the thought of self injecting my white blood cell boosters today. I have just done the injection and, now that one is done, the rest should be infinitely easier. I also am the proud owner of a giant stretchy bandage that covers the picc line sufficiently that it can't move, hurt, twist, swing or repulse me at the sheer sight of it. Now, except at shower times, I am just a person with a sprained elbow in bandage. That's much better than cancer patient with horrible long tube hanging out of her arm.
Went for a quick lunch pre-injection. I was very grumpy to begin with, as can be seen from this mornings 'post of gloom' but, by the end of it, despite one of the all round worst dining experiences we've ever had, I felt much better. My family and Nick are great. Have I said that before???
Now, we wait. Will the neupogen shot incur the same level of unbearable bone pain as the neulasta?? They have the same end effect, I'm just hoping different side effects. Time will tell. I have my zombifying pain killers at the ready.
We have also decided that I need a hair cut. My remaining hairs are sticking out in all directions and have actually gotten quite long. I look a bit crazy. Only Nick has to look at it, but I don't think he's liking what he sees. Time to get the razor out again. I am still amazed at how little I am bothered by the hair loss now. Once it was shaved I barely thought about it again. I wonder will I be saying that when the eyebrows are completely gone. Eyelashes are getting there...
Couple of hours to relax and then, bone pain permitting, out for a birthday BBQ celebration. Hopefully this won't be the last good day of this cycle. COME ON NO BONE PAIN!!!
Went for a quick lunch pre-injection. I was very grumpy to begin with, as can be seen from this mornings 'post of gloom' but, by the end of it, despite one of the all round worst dining experiences we've ever had, I felt much better. My family and Nick are great. Have I said that before???
Now, we wait. Will the neupogen shot incur the same level of unbearable bone pain as the neulasta?? They have the same end effect, I'm just hoping different side effects. Time will tell. I have my zombifying pain killers at the ready.
We have also decided that I need a hair cut. My remaining hairs are sticking out in all directions and have actually gotten quite long. I look a bit crazy. Only Nick has to look at it, but I don't think he's liking what he sees. Time to get the razor out again. I am still amazed at how little I am bothered by the hair loss now. Once it was shaved I barely thought about it again. I wonder will I be saying that when the eyebrows are completely gone. Eyelashes are getting there...
Couple of hours to relax and then, bone pain permitting, out for a birthday BBQ celebration. Hopefully this won't be the last good day of this cycle. COME ON NO BONE PAIN!!!
How should I be feeling?!
Exactly 24 hours since I heard the news that my treatment is a success, I won't be dying (from cancer) this year and, while the clean scan yesterday is all I've wanted since day 1 of this ordeal, I'm not as elated as I thought I would be. Obviously I'm delighted, relieved and thankful but I can't understand why I'm not jumping up and down. I feel ungrateful even saying that. The blog is about honesty however so here goes, don't judge me!!
My theory is that this is still not over. The tube is still in my arm and will be for another 40 days while I receive my last 3 chemos. Today, I have to give myself the first of the injections that last time left me a crying ball, writhing in pain as my poor boyfriend tried to lift what is now, thanks to the steroids, an even heavier version of me into the bath to see did heat help at all. I am still in for 3 more sessions on my good week bad week cycle. (better than 7 more sessions, I know)
The biggest concern I have however is the notion of reducing my treatments. This is a horrible battle in my mind- do I want to do 2 less months of chemo? Obviously, goes without saying. My 6 month schedule was leaving me in this horrible state until October- ending in July is like someone has just given me a get out of jail free card. But, what if I need those extra months to get rid of this for good. This comes back to the art of medicine, nobody really knows for sure. There are 3 options for someone with a clean 2 month scan with my particular type of lymphoma- 2 more months chemo, 2 months chemo and 1 month daily radiation, 4 more months chemo. The riskiest on the 'will it come back' scale obviously being the first one- my one. This is a cancer you want to beat first time. If it returns, I have a 50/50 chance of being cured with a stem cell transplant. I don't like 50/50. But, you have to balance it with potential over treatment this time (by adding radiation or more chemos that I don't need) which would reduce my chances of survival next time. See the dilemma? It would drive you mad thinking about it!!
But, for now I need to not worry about this and instead celebrate my 'medical marvel' status of yesterday. Today I have emerged from the chemo fog and have a great day of fancy lunch, doggie walks and evening BBQ in the wonderful Irish rain to enjoy.
The best part about yesterday was how much it really hammered home how many amazing people there are in my life. Such heartfelt joy from so so many people, some of whom I dont even know. Amazing. Life is good :)
My theory is that this is still not over. The tube is still in my arm and will be for another 40 days while I receive my last 3 chemos. Today, I have to give myself the first of the injections that last time left me a crying ball, writhing in pain as my poor boyfriend tried to lift what is now, thanks to the steroids, an even heavier version of me into the bath to see did heat help at all. I am still in for 3 more sessions on my good week bad week cycle. (better than 7 more sessions, I know)
The biggest concern I have however is the notion of reducing my treatments. This is a horrible battle in my mind- do I want to do 2 less months of chemo? Obviously, goes without saying. My 6 month schedule was leaving me in this horrible state until October- ending in July is like someone has just given me a get out of jail free card. But, what if I need those extra months to get rid of this for good. This comes back to the art of medicine, nobody really knows for sure. There are 3 options for someone with a clean 2 month scan with my particular type of lymphoma- 2 more months chemo, 2 months chemo and 1 month daily radiation, 4 more months chemo. The riskiest on the 'will it come back' scale obviously being the first one- my one. This is a cancer you want to beat first time. If it returns, I have a 50/50 chance of being cured with a stem cell transplant. I don't like 50/50. But, you have to balance it with potential over treatment this time (by adding radiation or more chemos that I don't need) which would reduce my chances of survival next time. See the dilemma? It would drive you mad thinking about it!!
But, for now I need to not worry about this and instead celebrate my 'medical marvel' status of yesterday. Today I have emerged from the chemo fog and have a great day of fancy lunch, doggie walks and evening BBQ in the wonderful Irish rain to enjoy.
The best part about yesterday was how much it really hammered home how many amazing people there are in my life. Such heartfelt joy from so so many people, some of whom I dont even know. Amazing. Life is good :)
Friday, June 22, 2012
Complete Remission!!!
In the words of the oncologist, I have just won the cancer lottery. My PET/CT shows that I am in complete remission with no evidence of disease 2 months earlier than expected. She just wants to clear it with my head consultant but it looks like I'll have to do a few more 'mop up' chemos to make sure there are no more danger cells lurking that were too small for the scan to pick up and I'll be done at the end of next month.
This means a) obviously, I am responsive to treatment which was the biggest concern b) I am HIGHLY responsive to treatment given how fast it was killed which puts me in the category of people who are least likely to relapse in the future. This is certainly not to say I wont relapse, but I have a good shot at never having pacman rear his ugly yellow head again.
I am torn between feelings of relief, shock, joy, fear.. I don't know. I'm numb. It'll sink in eventually. I think I need a lie down.....
It's not over yet, but the finish line just got moved infinitely closer. Relief is.....
This means a) obviously, I am responsive to treatment which was the biggest concern b) I am HIGHLY responsive to treatment given how fast it was killed which puts me in the category of people who are least likely to relapse in the future. This is certainly not to say I wont relapse, but I have a good shot at never having pacman rear his ugly yellow head again.
I am torn between feelings of relief, shock, joy, fear.. I don't know. I'm numb. It'll sink in eventually. I think I need a lie down.....
It's not over yet, but the finish line just got moved infinitely closer. Relief is.....
Thursday, June 21, 2012
AAAARRRRGGGHHH
The radiologist who signs off the reports is off sick today and so I can't have my scan results. Maybe tomorrow. Bet he's not as sick as I am!!! GRRRR
Significance and relativity
Sometime within the next 5-6 hours I will receive a call to tell me whether my treatment is working or not and, if it is, to what extent. This determines not only the length of my treatment (they can extend it to 8 months if I'm not showing sufficient response) but will also tell how aggressive my disease is and therefore my overall prognosis.
While I sit here, awaiting this call I can't help thinking about utterly insignificant every other set of results I have awaited in my life was in comparison and how for the most part now I can't even remember what they were when I finally received them. And how unimportant was every phone call I anxiously awaited. I am so much more nervous about this than I was even when I awaited my diagnosis and stage. Maybe now because I have a clearer understanding of just what that diagnosis meant for me and how much I really really REALLY want it all to end.
As promised this is a picture of my picc line. This tube will hang from my arm for the rest of my treatment. As it stands this means until October. A delay would mean its there until Christmas. I'm not sure I would have ever been able to understand just how terrible a thought it is to have this hanging out of your arm for months on end.
All this being said, at least in these cases the amount of time is finite. The real fear is that I'll be told it's not working sufficiently and it's time for plan B. I won't go into plan B right now but suffice to say plan B is not pretty.
I'm torn between staying positive and trying not to build up my hopes. Doesn't help that I'm still in chemo fog and so can't get out to take my mind off it. Instead, I'll carry on like other fog days. I'll wrap up my new tubular buddy, have a very uncomfortable luke warm shower, force down some toast and a handful of pills and go to the couch and wait for it to be Saturday so I'll feel almost human again, thus concluding chemo number 5. Horraaay! Another one nearly over. But how many more will there be??? Tune in tonight to find out :)
While I sit here, awaiting this call I can't help thinking about utterly insignificant every other set of results I have awaited in my life was in comparison and how for the most part now I can't even remember what they were when I finally received them. And how unimportant was every phone call I anxiously awaited. I am so much more nervous about this than I was even when I awaited my diagnosis and stage. Maybe now because I have a clearer understanding of just what that diagnosis meant for me and how much I really really REALLY want it all to end.
As promised this is a picture of my picc line. This tube will hang from my arm for the rest of my treatment. As it stands this means until October. A delay would mean its there until Christmas. I'm not sure I would have ever been able to understand just how terrible a thought it is to have this hanging out of your arm for months on end.
All this being said, at least in these cases the amount of time is finite. The real fear is that I'll be told it's not working sufficiently and it's time for plan B. I won't go into plan B right now but suffice to say plan B is not pretty.
I'm torn between staying positive and trying not to build up my hopes. Doesn't help that I'm still in chemo fog and so can't get out to take my mind off it. Instead, I'll carry on like other fog days. I'll wrap up my new tubular buddy, have a very uncomfortable luke warm shower, force down some toast and a handful of pills and go to the couch and wait for it to be Saturday so I'll feel almost human again, thus concluding chemo number 5. Horraaay! Another one nearly over. But how many more will there be??? Tune in tonight to find out :)
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Scanxiety
Tomorrow is the day I find out if treatment is working. Something tells me this is not going to be a very good nights sleep....
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Picc line
My tube is in. It took a weird amount of people and some pretty massive machinery. Feels strange, achey. I hope this is just coz it's new and not the way it's going to feel from now on. I do know I'm going to HATE this in a couple of days though and until it's out of my arm at the END OF SEPTEMBER !! The next 3-4 months just got even longer sounding if that's possible. I have no idea how I'm going to go about life with this dangling out of my arm! I'll post a pic tomorrow when I'm not sitting in such a public place :)
Other bad news, in an attempt to avoid the agonising neulasta bone pain causing injection of last time, I now have daily injections. They start 4 days from now. Better clear a full day in my calendar for number one and two, half a day for 3 and 4 and then see how scared I still am of self-injecting. Fun little experiment.
I'm now sitting in the hospital coffee shop waiting for my blood counts to be reported to them to make sure I'm fit for chemo. 4 hours from now I'll be 5 down. 7 to go.
Edit- 1145am, more bad news. My platelets are too high (???!!) and so I now have to stay on aspirin and am not allowed to fly. There goes my UK trip next weekend. It just gets better and better...
Other bad news, in an attempt to avoid the agonising neulasta bone pain causing injection of last time, I now have daily injections. They start 4 days from now. Better clear a full day in my calendar for number one and two, half a day for 3 and 4 and then see how scared I still am of self-injecting. Fun little experiment.
I'm now sitting in the hospital coffee shop waiting for my blood counts to be reported to them to make sure I'm fit for chemo. 4 hours from now I'll be 5 down. 7 to go.
Edit- 1145am, more bad news. My platelets are too high (???!!) and so I now have to stay on aspirin and am not allowed to fly. There goes my UK trip next weekend. It just gets better and better...
Monday, June 18, 2012
Ultimate dread
I just realised that today is the first day in over a month that has been pain free. And tomorrow, I get chemo AND a whole world of vein/tube/needle horribleness. Cruel cruel disease, a taste of freedom and then bang, right back to pain. Booooo for cancer.
Not feeling too optimistic right now. Id give away Louie for this to be over. Ok that's a lie, but I'd give Nick ;) I wonder will it ever become the norm to induce coma in cancer patients and just wake them up when chemo is finished. I'd happily sign up for a 6 month nap.
There was a little bald girl with a teddy getting scanned with me today. Around 7 years old. Life isn't fair sometimes. She was still smiling though. Maybe us cancer patients are like the Irish football fans, we know the situation is dire, but we keep on singing because life's no fun if you dwell on the negative. Just keep swimming? Naaah, just keep singing, just keep singing....
Not feeling too optimistic right now. Id give away Louie for this to be over. Ok that's a lie, but I'd give Nick ;) I wonder will it ever become the norm to induce coma in cancer patients and just wake them up when chemo is finished. I'd happily sign up for a 6 month nap.
There was a little bald girl with a teddy getting scanned with me today. Around 7 years old. Life isn't fair sometimes. She was still smiling though. Maybe us cancer patients are like the Irish football fans, we know the situation is dire, but we keep on singing because life's no fun if you dwell on the negative. Just keep swimming? Naaah, just keep singing, just keep singing....
Sunday, June 17, 2012
The weekend before the week
Well, night away was one big expensive disaster. Bad food, bad room, bad bed, bad night. We woke up from a terrible night's sleep at 8am on Saturday morning and looked at eachother - 'should we just go?' Yup. We got up and went home. Disaster. So much for my nice pre-chemo treat! Not to worry. I'll double up on treats next time to make up for it.
Today I'm finding it difficult to think of anything other than the week ahead. Tomorrow I have the PET/CT scan. This in itself is not a worry except that involves a hospital trip, the drinking of 1.5 litres of water before arriving (you wouldn't think this is an issue but believe me it's no easy task at 7am!) and the dreaded 'find a vein' battle. Once all that's done its fine.
Tuesday is another story. The PICC line will be inserted into my vein at 830. This, for those of you who don't know is a tube that is inserted into a vein in my arm and runs, in my veins up close to my heart. 2 tubes then hang permanently from my arm - one to put drugs in, one to take blood out. I am not thrilled about having this hanging out of my arm for the next 4 months but the 'find a vein' games are becoming more stressful than the chemo and so it can't continue. I will have to visit the hospital on my good weeks to get it 'flushed' (run saline through it) and get the bandage changed. I can't get it wet so its 'arm in a bag' showers for me from now on. After this is put in, under local anaesthetic, I have chemo number 5. It's going to be a long, long day. Then comes the chemo'd days of Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and increasingly, Saturday. Bleugh. Not a nice week to be embarking upon. But after it, I'll be almost halfway to the finish line. Just have to keep going. Scan results on Thursday. 'Never flinch, never weary, never despair' - Winston Churchill. This too, shall pass. Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming....
Today I'm finding it difficult to think of anything other than the week ahead. Tomorrow I have the PET/CT scan. This in itself is not a worry except that involves a hospital trip, the drinking of 1.5 litres of water before arriving (you wouldn't think this is an issue but believe me it's no easy task at 7am!) and the dreaded 'find a vein' battle. Once all that's done its fine.
Tuesday is another story. The PICC line will be inserted into my vein at 830. This, for those of you who don't know is a tube that is inserted into a vein in my arm and runs, in my veins up close to my heart. 2 tubes then hang permanently from my arm - one to put drugs in, one to take blood out. I am not thrilled about having this hanging out of my arm for the next 4 months but the 'find a vein' games are becoming more stressful than the chemo and so it can't continue. I will have to visit the hospital on my good weeks to get it 'flushed' (run saline through it) and get the bandage changed. I can't get it wet so its 'arm in a bag' showers for me from now on. After this is put in, under local anaesthetic, I have chemo number 5. It's going to be a long, long day. Then comes the chemo'd days of Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and increasingly, Saturday. Bleugh. Not a nice week to be embarking upon. But after it, I'll be almost halfway to the finish line. Just have to keep going. Scan results on Thursday. 'Never flinch, never weary, never despair' - Winston Churchill. This too, shall pass. Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming....
Friday, June 15, 2012
Romantic night away
So here we are, arrived at our hotel just in time for our dinner reservation. Are we eating? No. Our reservation was changed and we're watching football. Again. And Im bored and blogging. Sometimes I wonder why I put up with him, it's not like he does anything for me ;)
Today I went to work for lunch and stayed for four and a half hours. I miss my work buddies. They made me a lovely hamper of goodies and ordered my most favourite dessert- a maltesers cheesecake (of which I could murder another slice now while I wait for the worlds most delayed dinner). It's a lovely family we have in there and I can't wait til I'm once again a full time member. I even let some of the girls try on my wig, one of which left and went to the hairdresser armed with a picture of herself in the wig to tell them to make her hair look like that! I told her to just shave her head and I'll give her the wig.
In cancer related news, arm pain is about the same as yesterday- present but definitely manageable. I'm concerned as my eyebrows appear to be thinning. Not an immediate concern as I have a hellova lotta eyebrow. I'd definitely be sad to see them go altogether. It's always been scarier to me than head hair loss. On the subject of hair loss- I've lost most of the hair on the rest of my body. I'm reminded of the old lady at my first chemo who advised me to shave off all my pubic hair to "avoid it falling out all over the house". At the time I thought she was a crazy woman who was obviously wandering around her house naked. I have however yet to see one of these hairs falling out. Not in underwear, not in the shower, nowhere. Where are they going? I have visions of them falling out my trouser leg as I walk around the house. Maybe she was onto something this not-so-crazy old lady. Too much info again? Sorry. You're probably getting used to it by now.
Overall today is another very optimistic day- im going to enjoy my last few days before my week of hell, the end of which will mark the end of chemo #5 . Let's do this pacman, I'm totally back on form. You don't stand a chance little yellow fella....
Now, back to the England match
Today I went to work for lunch and stayed for four and a half hours. I miss my work buddies. They made me a lovely hamper of goodies and ordered my most favourite dessert- a maltesers cheesecake (of which I could murder another slice now while I wait for the worlds most delayed dinner). It's a lovely family we have in there and I can't wait til I'm once again a full time member. I even let some of the girls try on my wig, one of which left and went to the hairdresser armed with a picture of herself in the wig to tell them to make her hair look like that! I told her to just shave her head and I'll give her the wig.
In cancer related news, arm pain is about the same as yesterday- present but definitely manageable. I'm concerned as my eyebrows appear to be thinning. Not an immediate concern as I have a hellova lotta eyebrow. I'd definitely be sad to see them go altogether. It's always been scarier to me than head hair loss. On the subject of hair loss- I've lost most of the hair on the rest of my body. I'm reminded of the old lady at my first chemo who advised me to shave off all my pubic hair to "avoid it falling out all over the house". At the time I thought she was a crazy woman who was obviously wandering around her house naked. I have however yet to see one of these hairs falling out. Not in underwear, not in the shower, nowhere. Where are they going? I have visions of them falling out my trouser leg as I walk around the house. Maybe she was onto something this not-so-crazy old lady. Too much info again? Sorry. You're probably getting used to it by now.
Overall today is another very optimistic day- im going to enjoy my last few days before my week of hell, the end of which will mark the end of chemo #5 . Let's do this pacman, I'm totally back on form. You don't stand a chance little yellow fella....
Now, back to the England match
Happiness is
A great, normal, cancer free day! Arm pain is subsiding, now nothing more than a dull ache that I can ignore.(for anyone who is reading this who may have the misfortune of suffering the joys of chemical phlebitis now or in the future- the pain lasted 5 days, could be reduced with OTC medicines and was greatly eased by heat. Always thinking of the cancer contingent among my readers!) I Visited my grandparents, cleaned the house (the cleaner is coming on Saturday and I can't let her see it dirty- true Irish style, clean before the cleaner arrives!) and than a yummy dinner with friends . What I am also noticing, is how much better I feel on my good days than I did before I started chemo. It's midnight and I'm still wide awake and full of energy, never would have happened a few months ago. I can't believe it took me so long realise I was so unwell for the last year or so. It's a great sign to me that the chemos working. PET scan on Monday should provide proof!
Tomorrow Im popping into work to have lunch (fat Friday lunch, who'd have thought it was a health company) with my wonderful family there who I miss every day. Can't wait to see them and moreso can't wait to get back to working with them. Then, Nick and I are heading to a nice hotel for the night . Louie is gone to his granny's until
Saturday, lucky pup, getting spoilt rotten. I can picture him now sitting on the couch being fanned and hand fed sausages while having his belly rubbed. All in all we're a happy pack of campers at the moment :) I get another 3 happy cancer free days too...
Finally, you will all be happy to know, my faithful blog readers that we've added a few new countries to our readership again this week, crazy that this is reaching so far around the world. So, welcome to the 4 people who visited from Serbia, the 19 (!!!!) from Russia and the 3 from China !
Tomorrow Im popping into work to have lunch (fat Friday lunch, who'd have thought it was a health company) with my wonderful family there who I miss every day. Can't wait to see them and moreso can't wait to get back to working with them. Then, Nick and I are heading to a nice hotel for the night . Louie is gone to his granny's until
Saturday, lucky pup, getting spoilt rotten. I can picture him now sitting on the couch being fanned and hand fed sausages while having his belly rubbed. All in all we're a happy pack of campers at the moment :) I get another 3 happy cancer free days too...
Finally, you will all be happy to know, my faithful blog readers that we've added a few new countries to our readership again this week, crazy that this is reaching so far around the world. So, welcome to the 4 people who visited from Serbia, the 19 (!!!!) from Russia and the 3 from China !
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Phlebitis
Phlebitis- Inflammation of veins, also the reason why I am considering amputating my own left arm. That fella in 127 hours has NOTHING on me. I'd gladly cut it off using a rusty butter knife if it would end the pain. It will just go away in a week or so, so what painkillers would you like in the meantime? None. I must be mad. I was offered any painkiller I wanted and I said none. Told her I'd just stick it out. No idea why. I think it's the fact that I'm already losing track of what's being pumped into me day and night and to add another one to the mix seems silly. Whether or not it's more silly than sitting around in pain considering self mutilation is debatable. I could always pop a couple of my neulasta bone pain pills and go to sleep for a couple of days I suppose. Naaah. Can't waste a relatively good day asleep. They're too precious. Tomorrow's a new day and I've a dinner date to look forward to! It is funny how much my perception of 'good day' has changed that I now consider a morning in an oncology ward and moderate-severe pain a good day. Ahhhh the life of a cancer patient.....
This is the most exciting thing that's happened in the last 24 hours - I received a photo of Louie wearing devil horns...
Ok who am I kidding, cancer or no cancer, this would always make me happy! Who needs painkillers...
This is the most exciting thing that's happened in the last 24 hours - I received a photo of Louie wearing devil horns...
Ok who am I kidding, cancer or no cancer, this would always make me happy! Who needs painkillers...
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Tuesday lie-in countdowns
This sounds like fun, but it's not. I have been up all night with a weird pain in my left arm. It's an ache, about a 4 on the pain scale. So, my choices, go to the hospital and get them to look at it meaning best case scenario a couple of hours of hanging around the dreaded chemo ward OR lie in bed, pretend it's not happening. On a normal day, in the life of a non cancer patient, a pain in the arm is not something to consider a hospital trip for. This is what I have been reduced to! So here I am, still in bed at 1130am on a Tuesday, researching 'arm pain chemotherapy'. I have such a great life at the moment....
5 more days til my scan. 6 more days til they put the PICC line in my arm. 6 more days til I start my third month of chemo. Everything is one giant countdown these days. The largest countdown obviously being the one to the end of September when chemo will be done and this can hopefully be put behind me. I really think, among other things, poor Nick is getting sick of waking up with tiny hairs from my head in his mouth and all over the bed. I know I am. It's the exact reason Louie has never been allowed on the bed. I'm starting to feel a little hypocritical though, maybe I should sleep on a blanket in the kitchen too?? We can shed there together. Louie would LOVE that. Nick probably would too.
However, it is 1 more day until my ladies day out with my mother and sister for lunch and to spend a very generous voucher I was given by Nick's colleagues, 2 more days til I have a much craved dinner with the girls, 3 more days til Nick and I go to a nice hotel for a night of yummy food and Jacuzzis. 15 more days til we head over to visit his family for a weekend. 19 days until the Euros are over and I can reclaim the TV. Countdowns don't have to be bad when you have cancer.
5 more days til my scan. 6 more days til they put the PICC line in my arm. 6 more days til I start my third month of chemo. Everything is one giant countdown these days. The largest countdown obviously being the one to the end of September when chemo will be done and this can hopefully be put behind me. I really think, among other things, poor Nick is getting sick of waking up with tiny hairs from my head in his mouth and all over the bed. I know I am. It's the exact reason Louie has never been allowed on the bed. I'm starting to feel a little hypocritical though, maybe I should sleep on a blanket in the kitchen too?? We can shed there together. Louie would LOVE that. Nick probably would too.
However, it is 1 more day until my ladies day out with my mother and sister for lunch and to spend a very generous voucher I was given by Nick's colleagues, 2 more days til I have a much craved dinner with the girls, 3 more days til Nick and I go to a nice hotel for a night of yummy food and Jacuzzis. 15 more days til we head over to visit his family for a weekend. 19 days until the Euros are over and I can reclaim the TV. Countdowns don't have to be bad when you have cancer.
Sunday, June 10, 2012
I'm back!
I can assure you I am in fact alive. The last 4 days was the longest I have gone without blogging since my diagnosis. It has also been the toughest 4 days yet. I have not felt much worse physically than other days, still nauseous, still tired, still counting the seconds until it all ends. This time, the problem was in my mind. It has been a dark few days.
Chemo on Tuesday was tough, it was a long long day. I had a couple of collapsed veins mid-drip meaning we had to start again a couple of times. Back into the hot water trying to make another viable vein (of which I am fast running out) come to the surface. Eventually they got a needle into my knuckle and it held strong for the rest of the poisoning. This was tough, in the knuckle just seems wrong! I don't think that's what did it though, I don't know what caused the mini depression I slipped into. Maybe the thoughts of 4 more months like this, 8 more chemo's. Maybe the effects are starting to hit me harder, no such thing as a full recovery anymore as that concept from round 1 is long gone. Even my good days aren't perfect anymore. I still need that little bit more rest, still get out of breath that little bit faster, still randomly feel nauseous for a few minutes and then there's the never ending hiccups which you wouldn't think would be an issue but are really starting to bug me! Suffice to say (I am completely ashamed to admit this) it entered my head this week that I should stop treatment, that dying would be better. I now see why every other warrior in that ward is on anti-depressants.
BUT, and this is why I waited to write this post, it's over. I am back. In 7 days I get another PET/CT scan. This shows where in my body there are cancerous cells. This will show whether this is working. I know it's working, I can barely feel anything in my neck anymore, even when really trying. The chest and armpit issues disappeared after round 1 so I know they're long gone by now. I am SO looking forward to this scan. It's like an exam I know I studied really really hard for (hmmm, not that I know what that feels like, was always pretty damn lazy) and just KNOW I'm going to ace.
Positives keeping me going this week? I got Louie back from my parents on Friday (they take him for a couple of days over chemo, it's better for him and me, he's pretty demanding!). I've taken him to the park twice this weekend (both times requiring a rest afterwards but they were more than enough to bring a grin to my face). I'm so glad I have him, the therapeutic effects of a lovable pooch should not be underestimated. For those who love dogs I suppose. Probably wouldn't do much for a Cynophobia sufferer, which google has just informed me is a person with an abnormal fear of dogs. Thank you google. Nick is amazing as ever. I also still have all my eyebrows and my remaining head hair (think I'm at about 50% gone) has taken enough of a spurt that it needs a trim in places, this shows me my body is still going. Even with 2 months (can't believe its been 2 months) of chemo behind me I'm still in the game hair-wise. Most of all, I'm one third of the way through this ordeal which will soon be a memory. A story I tell at parties to make people feel guilty for complaining about their bad hair day, or hard day at work! "You think that's bad? Once I got cancer".
Some more requests, once again on the hair front, for photo's of what I now look like sans-wig. Photo here for all you morbidly curious people, those of you ballsy enough to ask and those of you who wish you were! Sexy eh? Have to say, still haven't found the hair loss to be as traumatic as it is for most people. So many people say it was the hardest part of cancer. Maybe it helps that I always hated my hair anyway? I don't know. I do really REALLY want it to come back though. Please note jaw line on left hand side. HORRAY!!
Still shocks me to look in the mirror. That photo really doesn't look the way I look in my head!! Then again, does anyone?
This morning Louie came up to the bedroom for his morning cuddles, same as he does every morning. He goes straight to Nick's side of the bed, knowing there's far better chance of attention over there. As Nick does his good morning greetings, Louie taunts me in his usual Ahahaha Nick prefers me to you way....I even caught this one on camera. Tell me that's not a taunting face! Tongue out an everything. He's lucky I love him. And so is Louie.
I'm sorry to everyone I worried this week, falling off the radar like I did. I'm alive, well and ready to keep fighting. Pacman is feeling MUCH rougher than I am. Thank you all for noticing I was temporarily MIA.
Chemo on Tuesday was tough, it was a long long day. I had a couple of collapsed veins mid-drip meaning we had to start again a couple of times. Back into the hot water trying to make another viable vein (of which I am fast running out) come to the surface. Eventually they got a needle into my knuckle and it held strong for the rest of the poisoning. This was tough, in the knuckle just seems wrong! I don't think that's what did it though, I don't know what caused the mini depression I slipped into. Maybe the thoughts of 4 more months like this, 8 more chemo's. Maybe the effects are starting to hit me harder, no such thing as a full recovery anymore as that concept from round 1 is long gone. Even my good days aren't perfect anymore. I still need that little bit more rest, still get out of breath that little bit faster, still randomly feel nauseous for a few minutes and then there's the never ending hiccups which you wouldn't think would be an issue but are really starting to bug me! Suffice to say (I am completely ashamed to admit this) it entered my head this week that I should stop treatment, that dying would be better. I now see why every other warrior in that ward is on anti-depressants.
BUT, and this is why I waited to write this post, it's over. I am back. In 7 days I get another PET/CT scan. This shows where in my body there are cancerous cells. This will show whether this is working. I know it's working, I can barely feel anything in my neck anymore, even when really trying. The chest and armpit issues disappeared after round 1 so I know they're long gone by now. I am SO looking forward to this scan. It's like an exam I know I studied really really hard for (hmmm, not that I know what that feels like, was always pretty damn lazy) and just KNOW I'm going to ace.
Positives keeping me going this week? I got Louie back from my parents on Friday (they take him for a couple of days over chemo, it's better for him and me, he's pretty demanding!). I've taken him to the park twice this weekend (both times requiring a rest afterwards but they were more than enough to bring a grin to my face). I'm so glad I have him, the therapeutic effects of a lovable pooch should not be underestimated. For those who love dogs I suppose. Probably wouldn't do much for a Cynophobia sufferer, which google has just informed me is a person with an abnormal fear of dogs. Thank you google. Nick is amazing as ever. I also still have all my eyebrows and my remaining head hair (think I'm at about 50% gone) has taken enough of a spurt that it needs a trim in places, this shows me my body is still going. Even with 2 months (can't believe its been 2 months) of chemo behind me I'm still in the game hair-wise. Most of all, I'm one third of the way through this ordeal which will soon be a memory. A story I tell at parties to make people feel guilty for complaining about their bad hair day, or hard day at work! "You think that's bad? Once I got cancer".
Some more requests, once again on the hair front, for photo's of what I now look like sans-wig. Photo here for all you morbidly curious people, those of you ballsy enough to ask and those of you who wish you were! Sexy eh? Have to say, still haven't found the hair loss to be as traumatic as it is for most people. So many people say it was the hardest part of cancer. Maybe it helps that I always hated my hair anyway? I don't know. I do really REALLY want it to come back though. Please note jaw line on left hand side. HORRAY!!
Still shocks me to look in the mirror. That photo really doesn't look the way I look in my head!! Then again, does anyone?
This morning Louie came up to the bedroom for his morning cuddles, same as he does every morning. He goes straight to Nick's side of the bed, knowing there's far better chance of attention over there. As Nick does his good morning greetings, Louie taunts me in his usual Ahahaha Nick prefers me to you way....I even caught this one on camera. Tell me that's not a taunting face! Tongue out an everything. He's lucky I love him. And so is Louie.
I'm sorry to everyone I worried this week, falling off the radar like I did. I'm alive, well and ready to keep fighting. Pacman is feeling MUCH rougher than I am. Thank you all for noticing I was temporarily MIA.
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
Die Monsieur Le Pac #4
Firsty, I'm loving pacman's new name - well done Toni :)
Here I sit in the chemo ward, some hardcore anti nausea drugs dripping into my vein ( which she got on the back of my arm first go- a happy vein day!). Fun times. Some more good news already so far today :
1. I did not put on any weight this time. Steroids, I am beating you. Now someone hand me a pizza and we'll speak no more of it.
2. After pleading (and nearly crying) with the doctor she has agreed to no more of the 'injection of bone agony'. If my counts fall dangerously low they'll give me another type and see if it's any better. JOOOYYY!! The other option however is the daily shot for 5 days so I may need volunteers to call over and inject me in the stomach. Applications to the usual address please.
3. My scan to see my progress is on the 18th, I have chemo #5 on the 19th. I've just been told that on the 19th they'll have my results which means I only have to wait 2 more weeks to know just how sick Monsieur Le Pac is.
Yesterday was my only good day of the last chemo course, one good day in 2 weeks and then it was in to be hit again. Rough going. This one however is already better. And after today I'm 1/3 of the way there.
Horrray for the imminent death of Monsieur Le pac!
Amendment: it's now an hour later and the miracle vein collapsed meaning I had to get back in the hot water and they eventually got another line into my knuckle. Ouch. Also the lady beside me just threw up on my blanket. Something tells me this day is taking a turn...
Here I sit in the chemo ward, some hardcore anti nausea drugs dripping into my vein ( which she got on the back of my arm first go- a happy vein day!). Fun times. Some more good news already so far today :
1. I did not put on any weight this time. Steroids, I am beating you. Now someone hand me a pizza and we'll speak no more of it.
2. After pleading (and nearly crying) with the doctor she has agreed to no more of the 'injection of bone agony'. If my counts fall dangerously low they'll give me another type and see if it's any better. JOOOYYY!! The other option however is the daily shot for 5 days so I may need volunteers to call over and inject me in the stomach. Applications to the usual address please.
3. My scan to see my progress is on the 18th, I have chemo #5 on the 19th. I've just been told that on the 19th they'll have my results which means I only have to wait 2 more weeks to know just how sick Monsieur Le Pac is.
Yesterday was my only good day of the last chemo course, one good day in 2 weeks and then it was in to be hit again. Rough going. This one however is already better. And after today I'm 1/3 of the way there.
Horrray for the imminent death of Monsieur Le pac!
Amendment: it's now an hour later and the miracle vein collapsed meaning I had to get back in the hot water and they eventually got another line into my knuckle. Ouch. Also the lady beside me just threw up on my blanket. Something tells me this day is taking a turn...
Sunday, June 3, 2012
Lazy Sunday
I think the worst is over, I'm scared to say it, but writing it on here doesn't count as saying it so I do think the worst is over.
The painkillers they gave me were given with the warning - 'start with one, they're opium based so quite strong'. I took one on Friday evening, nothing. Took 2 more and fell asleep for 14 hours. Woke up, took 2 more, dribbled while eating breakfast and didn't realise. Drove to my grandparents house and got lost (I've done the drive about 1000 times). Realised I shouldn't be driving and stayed home for the rest of the day. Nick drove us to my parents house for dinner last night where the pain got so bad I had to get into the bath. Immediately came home, more painkillers, back in the bath, temperature shot up (no idea why, it's fine now) 12 more hours sleep. Today, I'm scared to stand up in case the current ache degenerates back into agony. It's Ok, lazy Sunday suits me fine.
Tuesday is round 4. I am SO not ready for another hit. This is the first time I have not felt ready. I blame the neulasta. I'm going to have to have a strongly worded chat with them about this on Tuesday. I can't spend the next 4-5 months going from agony to doped up dribbling mess to sleep and back to agony again. I really need to get round 4 done though as after round 4 comes my scan. This will be done on June 18th, the day before round 5. This means that by the time I get the results I'll have done 5 chemos, 10 weeks. It's far from fun, but it's definitely going very fast. I am so so so so excited to get my scan done. This better be working!
I feel a bit hard done by that, once again, they played down the pain this shot would cause. If people knew what to expect, it might not be as bad. I was expecting mild to moderate pain and I got it and was fine with it. Few paracetamol and I was fine. Then the very NOT mild to moderate pain started and I was NOT fine with it. I also hadn't prepared myself with painkillers, I was out walking a mountain when it started which I wouldn't have been doing if I thought I was about to be crippled in pain.
Suppose the upside is that chemo is going to feel like a hug and a massage in comparison to that neulasta shot. It's all relative. Chemo is no longer my worst enemy, neulasta, I hope we never meet again.
The painkillers they gave me were given with the warning - 'start with one, they're opium based so quite strong'. I took one on Friday evening, nothing. Took 2 more and fell asleep for 14 hours. Woke up, took 2 more, dribbled while eating breakfast and didn't realise. Drove to my grandparents house and got lost (I've done the drive about 1000 times). Realised I shouldn't be driving and stayed home for the rest of the day. Nick drove us to my parents house for dinner last night where the pain got so bad I had to get into the bath. Immediately came home, more painkillers, back in the bath, temperature shot up (no idea why, it's fine now) 12 more hours sleep. Today, I'm scared to stand up in case the current ache degenerates back into agony. It's Ok, lazy Sunday suits me fine.
Tuesday is round 4. I am SO not ready for another hit. This is the first time I have not felt ready. I blame the neulasta. I'm going to have to have a strongly worded chat with them about this on Tuesday. I can't spend the next 4-5 months going from agony to doped up dribbling mess to sleep and back to agony again. I really need to get round 4 done though as after round 4 comes my scan. This will be done on June 18th, the day before round 5. This means that by the time I get the results I'll have done 5 chemos, 10 weeks. It's far from fun, but it's definitely going very fast. I am so so so so excited to get my scan done. This better be working!
I feel a bit hard done by that, once again, they played down the pain this shot would cause. If people knew what to expect, it might not be as bad. I was expecting mild to moderate pain and I got it and was fine with it. Few paracetamol and I was fine. Then the very NOT mild to moderate pain started and I was NOT fine with it. I also hadn't prepared myself with painkillers, I was out walking a mountain when it started which I wouldn't have been doing if I thought I was about to be crippled in pain.
Suppose the upside is that chemo is going to feel like a hug and a massage in comparison to that neulasta shot. It's all relative. Chemo is no longer my worst enemy, neulasta, I hope we never meet again.
Friday, June 1, 2012
Am I 'real' yet?
I would HAPPILY take the combination of achey, uncomfortable situations I described in the last post. The pain has moved to my back and hips. One sleepless night, several painkillers and one desperate phone call to the hospital begging them to furnish me with something stronger later and I'm no better off. The nurse I spoke to said most women liken it to labour pain when it reaches your lower back and hips. I can tell you now if this is labour pain there will be no babies passing through these hips. Sorry parents and in laws- no grandbabies for you. I consider myself to have a fairly high pain threshold but this feels like I've been crushed by a truck and now someone is twisting screwdrivers in to the most painful points. I can't sit, I can't stand, I can't lie on my back, stomach or side. I hate neulastra. If I wasn't so determined not to make this ordeal any longer than it has to be I would definitely be refusing this drug again. To do so would probably double my treatment time as I wait for my counts to come back up naturally after each hit and so it's not an option. Just one more thing to add to the list of things I hate about cancer. (This list is growing, fast. Really need to get back to working on the list of things I like about cancer. Like, today, instead of going to work I'm going for a day out with my Mam and sis. That's if I can kill the pain with super drugs of course.)
I have a good friend, who in an extremely unfair twist of fate, at age 28 has been suffering real back pain for several years. I always sympathised, but I never understood. I know that now. I hope more than anything that she finds the cure she needs. I can't imagine having this pain with no end in sight.
Makes me think, once again, about how this experience might or might not change me. Will I be different having felt real pain, real fear? Surely there can be few fears greater then the fear of losing your life. Maybe the fear of losing a child. I don't think I'm going to come out the end of this thinking it was a blessing in disguise, or a lesson I'm glad to have learned like some cancer survivors experience. I think I'm going to put it down to what it was, a horrible thing that happened that I survived. It will definitely make me feel different, worse, uglier, fatter, balder, tired. I'll be proud though. And definitely relieved. And probably still scared - scared it's not over. Maybe it makes me a bit more real. All I've ever wanted from my life was experiences. Without them, good or bad, how can you say you've lived? There would be nothing worse than dying feeling like you never lived.
This reminds me of the velveteen rabbit (I read it after that friends episode - this is coz I know you like rabbits and I know you like cheese - anyone?!).
I have a good friend, who in an extremely unfair twist of fate, at age 28 has been suffering real back pain for several years. I always sympathised, but I never understood. I know that now. I hope more than anything that she finds the cure she needs. I can't imagine having this pain with no end in sight.
Makes me think, once again, about how this experience might or might not change me. Will I be different having felt real pain, real fear? Surely there can be few fears greater then the fear of losing your life. Maybe the fear of losing a child. I don't think I'm going to come out the end of this thinking it was a blessing in disguise, or a lesson I'm glad to have learned like some cancer survivors experience. I think I'm going to put it down to what it was, a horrible thing that happened that I survived. It will definitely make me feel different, worse, uglier, fatter, balder, tired. I'll be proud though. And definitely relieved. And probably still scared - scared it's not over. Maybe it makes me a bit more real. All I've ever wanted from my life was experiences. Without them, good or bad, how can you say you've lived? There would be nothing worse than dying feeling like you never lived.
This reminds me of the velveteen rabbit (I read it after that friends episode - this is coz I know you like rabbits and I know you like cheese - anyone?!).
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